When the honeymoon is over.

So what happens after those two or three years are over and that newlywed/honeymoon feeling is slowly starting to fade? You see the homemade cards and poems slowly disappearing and the romantic doings are far and few between now. What do you do then? Is that it? The end of the honeymoon? Now you're in the comfortable stage. Where you promise that next year you'll make something for Valentines day or next year we'll go out for dinner, but it never actually happens.

What do you do then? Do you force that honeymoon phase into another year or do you accept the fact and keep going? Do you reminisce about those days when everything was so blissful and amazing? What if relationships were just that, the honeymoon phase. You date for a couple of years until that phase stats to die out a bit and then shake hands, say it's been fun and move on. Sounds kind of nice.

What if you CAN have both, the honeymoon phase AND the comfortable settled in phase. That's gotta be the perfect relationship and I'm sure it's out there. Kudos to you if you have that.

This guy is my Valentine this year. Marcus Mumford from Mumford & Sons. He's a dreamboat.

wait it does exist!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singles_Awareness_Day


Singles Day does exist. Except it needs to share the same day as Valentines day, which is kind of lame. I think it deserves a whole other day.

fu v-day.

So it's 12:21 which means it is now Valentines Day. I am starting this day off with listening to some Hayden which is depressing me a little.

I think this day is a load of crap. Really. It's a stupid holiday to put pressure on couples (mostly men) to go out and buy generic crappy stuffed animals, crappy heart shaped chocolate and overly expensive flowers. Wow, sounds fun. It's a day to shower your love for your partner and to express how you feel with a Hallmark card. If you don't, you're in trouble. Why is it that you have to do this stuff on this specific day? Why not every day or one day a month? It's a load of crap.

So why am I feeling depressed and lonely? Why am I being that bitter cynical girl? Am I jealous that someone is not showering me with all that cheap crap? Maybe. Maybe it's cause this day is to rub it in single people's faces. "HEY YOU. SINGLE PERSON, YOU DON'T GET TO PARTAKE IN THIS DAY CAUSE YOU HAVE NO ONEEEEEEEEEEEEE". What are single people supposed to do on this day? Why not have a Single's day? Huh! Where's that day?

Ok, I'm getting a bit aggressive here (doesn't help that Hole just came on my itunes).

I think it's just a waste of money for couples and for singles it's just a smack in the face. (not that being single is bad, cause it's not, but when you're newly single, it's bad)

So go out and buy nothing. Act like it's not V-day. Go shower your loved one with candy next month. Go do all those mushy things next week. Don't use this day because society tells you too. Don't give in.

I'm going to go out tomorrow and ignore everyone and celebrate the fact that I'm single and that's fine.

i heart nyc.

The one thing I really really love is New York City and I romanticize it. This clip from Woody Allen's "Manhattan" describes it all for me. I've had this love for this city since I was 17 years old. The one thing I dream and fantasize over is living there and being successful. Some dream about getting married and having kids, I dream about living there. I can honestly say, I <3> NY.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0o6QKpNK9Cc

i will love you forever.

When I see elder's in love, it warms my heart so much. It gives me hope that love does last forever. I feel so cynical about love in this time and age. With so many divorces, people cheating, etc. it's like, does real love actually exist? When I see older couples walking hand in hand, it puts a smile on my face instantly. To think this couple has probably been together for 30+ years. They've stuck by each other through the worst of things and the best of things. They've managed to put every thing aside and just love each other no matter what. To me that is the most romantic thing in the world. Still so much in love that they're holding hands after all those years. That is romance to me. That gives me hope that true love still exists.

(but when i watch everybody loves raymond i get discouraged again. ha!)